当罗凯文和爱尔贝莎罗清洗碗盘时，罗凯文忍不住问爱尔贝莎罗为什么罗兰·京尔格选择了他？
“来参加葬礼的人大概有两千多人，罗兰·京尔格可以有别的选择。”
爱尔贝莎罗笑着说“他选择你的原因有很多。首先，你有能力写这本书，而且你有能力做这个主席。”
“还有你的DNA和家族是一致的，进行DNA管理的益处，已经越来越被人们所认可。可到了真正身体力行的时候，却又觉得难以坚持。怎样才能坚持DNA管理的实践并形成习惯，我们有时会归因于执行力不足。不过我想说的是，如果我们不能解决执行力不足的问题，仍然是没有用的。
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为了解决执行力不足的问题，我们研究一下那些在我们的生活中被执行得比较好的事情。我们可能会发现在有些方面，我们的执行力很强。
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我注意到这样一种现象：即使对于那些自我执行力很差的人，一旦什么事情是由他人负责，对我们随时给予督促，一般来说这件事情多半是能够完成的。比如对于许多人来说，工作上的事情，总是能够完成的。因为工作方面一般总是有他人负责和督促的。
如果你恰恰是这种执行力不足的人，你的时间和精力往往会大部分用来应付那些由他人督促的事情。这反过来会使你更加没有时间和精力来执行你自己的DNA管理办法实践。也许你也希望有他人来督促你执行DNA管理，但这是不可能的。
如果你恰好属于这种情况，我正好有一个建议给你：制定好你的DNA管理实施计划，在任何人督促你做任何事情之前优先做好你的DNA管理工作。这个时候不去理会他们督促你做的事情。
你不担心那些会受到影响，因为你所欠缺的并不是效率，只是执行力问题。通过把DNA管理实施排在优先的位置，你会调动起自己的潜力，产生更高的工作效率，你会发现你仍然有足够的事情把别人督促你做的事情做好。如果一开始事情有所滞后，别人会再次督促你的，并且这种督促是出于真心，也会发挥它对你执行力促进的效果。
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当然，这只是跨世纪人才研究院一个内定方案。随着你的DNA管理真正成为习惯，你的时间利用率会更高，执行力也会得到提升。那时，你会制定出更符合自己特点的执行方案。”
“最重要的原因是他觉得，帮助别人会使他再活过来，而且更快乐自己，刚刚我看见你和其他人相处的情形，也证实了这点，不是吗，罗凯文？虽然我没见过以前的你，但是我敢于打赌你现在几乎恢复到原来的你了。”
罗凯文摇了摇头。
“不，我永远不会再回到以前了，以前的我自私、自大、而且懒，是罗兰·京尔格改变了这一切，或许我还变得不够彻底，但至少我已经做到了。我要求他人帮助的时候，首先要考虑管住自己，那么怎样管住自己？。一看到这种提法的时候，我不禁想起一位伟大哲学家曾说的话：‘难道有两个自己么？’答案当然是否定的，只有一个自己。所谓的另一个任性不听话的自己，和整个“自己管不住自己”的故事都是我们虚构出来的。正是这种虚构的故事，让我们无法解决真正的问题，甚至无法看到它。
现在让我来讲述真正的故事（我以熬夜玩游戏为例，其他的事情可以类比）：
当我们玩游戏入迷的时候，不论是游戏设计者的精心设计的哪个因素发挥了其作用，都让我们得出了结论：单调的睡觉每天都可以有，但如此痛快地玩游戏的机会难得，所以我不准备去睡觉。按经济学家的说法，我会持续玩到游戏带来的边际快乐和困倦带来的边际痛苦相等的时候。这时，继续玩游戏已经失去了意义，于是我回到床上小睡了一会。当然，没过多久，天亮了，我不得不再次起床，在困倦中去上班。
直到我恢复了思考能力，我发现昨晚的这个决定是非常不合算的。因为精神不振，工作效率低下整整持续了一天，而玩游戏获得的短暂快乐却早已消失了。我觉得一定哪里出了什么问题，原因在哪里，我开始思考。
真正问题的解决涉及到短期利益与长期利益的平衡，并涉及到将长期利益的感受整合到短期，以便帮助我们决策。把这整个问题想清楚将经历相当复杂的思考过程。但遗憾的是对于我们许多人来说，进行如此复杂的思考是有难度的。于是——我们决定，对此事不予理睬！但把这样一个明显感觉到的错误丢在一边不作为，多少有些说不过去，我们必须有解决办法——找个借口。
关键的时刻到了，请大家注意，幻觉在此产生！
找借口的工作是我们所擅长的：最好的借口就是‘不可抗力’。首先肯定我们自己是好的，这是最关键的，我们深明大义，我们知道该做什么不该做什么。但是另一个人，在跟我们捣乱，是他让我玩游戏的。所以我自己已经很好了，我可以去做我想做的其他事情去了，而不必纠缠于昨天的错误，因为那根本不是我的错误。
是谁的错误呢？如果能够推到别人身上，当然是最完美的，不过如果无法找到他人作为责任推脱的对象，也没有关系，我们可以把责任推到另外一个自己身上。是的，就是他在捣乱，他只想玩游戏，不想去睡觉，但我管不住他。我已经很好了，我不用为昨天的事情承担责任，即使有责任也只是领导责任。而且我也在积极寻找解决办法呀：我在寻找‘怎么管住自己’的办法。
‘怎么管住自己’的办法，是根本不存在的，因为这根本就是虚构的。它存在的唯一作用就是让我们远离解决真正问题所必须的艰苦思考，端正自己的态度。”
Wash the dishes when Luo kai wen and Ai er Bei Sha Luo Luo kai, wen can not help but ask Ai er Bei Sha Luo why Jingerge · lanluo chose him?
"About more than 2,000 people to attend the funeral, Jingerge · lanluo can have a choice. "
Ai er Bei Sha Luo smiled and said the "why he chose you. First of all, you have the ability to write this book, and you have the ability to do this President."
Your DNA and the family is consistent, the benefits of DNA management has increasingly been recognized. Can be to truly personally, but find it difficult to insist on how to adhere to the DNA management practices and the formation of habits sometimes attributed to the lack of execution, but I want to say is, if we can not solve the problem of lack of execution, is of no use.
In order to solve the problem of inadequate execution, we look at things in our lives better. We may find in some respects our strong executive power.
I noticed such a phenomenon: Even for those who are self-execution poor, once anything is by others, we are ready to give to urge, in general, this thing is mostly completed. For many people, for example, things work, always able to be completed. Work there are always others responsible for the supervision of the general.
If you are precisely the execution of your time and energy to tend most to cope with supervision by others. This in turn will make you even less time and energy to perform your own DNA management approach practice. Perhaps you also want others to urge you to perform DNA management, but it is impossible.
If you happen to be the case, I just have a suggestion for you: making a good management of your DNA to the implementation of the plan, the priority to do your DNA work before anyone urge you to do anything. This time do not bother about them to urge you to do.
You do not worry about those who would be affected, because you are not lacking in efficiency, but the execution problem. DNA management implementation ranked in a priority position, you will mobilize their potential to produce greater efficiency, you will find that you still have enough things to others urge you to do things better. If the beginning of things has lagged behind, and others will once again urge you, and this urge is for sincere, will also play it your executive power to promote the effect.
Of course, this is only the default program about a cross-century talents Institute a. Truly become a habit with your DNA management, your time utilization will be higher, the execution will be enhanced. At that time, you will work out the implementation of the program more in line with their own characteristics. "
"The most important reason he felt, to help others make him alive again, and happier, and just, I saw the case of you get along with others, also confirmed this point, is not it, Luo kai, wen? Although I did not seen you before, but I dare to bet you are now almost back to you. "
Luo kai, wen shook his head.
I asked "No, I will never go back to the past, before I was selfish, arrogant, and lazy, is Jingerge · lanluo change all this, perhaps I should not thorough enough, but at least I’ve done. others to help, first of all, resist the temptation to consider how to resist the temptation? see this reference, I can not help but think of a great philosopher once said: ’Is there two own?’ course the answer is no, only a so-called another wayward disobedient of themselves, and the entire story of "control themselves" are made up of precisely this fictional story, we can not solve The real question, can not even see it.
Let me now to tell the true story (I stay up all night playing games, for example, other things can be analog):
When we play the game fascinated when, whether it is the careful design of the game designers which factors played a role, let us come to the conclusion: monotonous sleep every day, but so happy to play the game, a rare opportunity , so I am not prepared to go to bed. Economists say, I will continue to play the marginal bring to the game to bring happiness and sleepiness equal to the marginal pain. At this time, continue to play the game has lost its meaning, so I went back to bed for a nap. Of course, not long before daybreak, I had to once again get up in the sleepy went to work.
Ability to think until I recovered, I found last night, this decision is very uneconomical. Lack of energy, inefficient work lasted a full day, the brief joy of playing games has long since disappeared. I feel certain where what’s wrong, because where I began to think about.
The real problems related to short-term benefits and long-term balance of interests, and relate to the long-term interests of the feel integrated into the short-term, in order to help our decision-making. This whole issue to think clearly will experience quite a complex process of thinking. Unfortunately for many of us, so complex thinking is difficult. So - we decided to ignore the matter! However, such an obvious error feel lost in the side of omission, somewhat justified, we must have a solution - an excuse.
Critical moment, please note that illusion in this!
The excuses we are good at: the best excuse is to ’force majeure’. The first affirmed that we are good, this is the most critical, we clearly knows, we know what to do or should not do. But another person in trouble with us, he let me play the game. I have been so good, other things I can do what I want, without having to dwell on yesterday’s mistakes, because it simply is not my mistake.
Whose mistake is it? If we can push onto others, of course, is the most perfect, but if you can not find the object of others as to pin the blame does not matter, we can shift the responsibility onto another himself. Is he in trouble, he just wants to play games, do not want to go to sleep, but I do not control him. I’ve been good, I do not take responsibility for what happened yesterday, even though the responsibility only of the leadership responsibility. And I am also actively looking for solutions.: I’m looking for ’how to resist the temptation’ approach.
’How to resist the temptation’ approach is simply not exist, because this is simply fictional. Its only role is to keep us away from the hard thinking necessary to solve the real problem, and correct their own attitudes. "
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